A Pet Psychic's Guide on How to Communicate with Dogs

A Pet Psychic's Guide on How to Communicate with Dogs

For 27 years, I've had pet parents come to me with the same heartfelt question: “How do I know what my dog is thinking?” My answer is always rooted in a simple truth about how to communicate with dogs. You don't need to teach your dog a new language; you just need to learn how to listen to the one they're already speaking. The wonderful news is that anyone can become a better listener.

What Is the Secret Language Your Dog Is Already Speaking?

In my experience connecting with thousands of animals, the biggest barrier to clear communication isn't the dog, it’s our own human perspective. We're wired for words, so we often miss the quiet, consistent conversation our dogs are having with us every single day. Think about it this way: your dog is constantly broadcasting signals about their feelings and needs. What I tell pet parents is to shift their focus from "talking to" their dog to "listening with" their dog. This is where the real connection begins.

How Can I Learn to Listen?

Let me explain with a quick story. I recently had a session with a woman worried about her Golden Retriever, Max. "He's just so restless at night," she told me. "He paces and can't seem to settle down. I keep telling him to go to his bed, but he just looks at me and whines." As I connected with Max, the feeling wasn't restlessness, it was a persistent physical discomfort. He showed me an image of himself trying to lie down, but a spot on his hip felt sharp and achy. Put simply, he wasn't ignoring her; he was trying to say, "I want to lie down, but it hurts right here." Once she added a thick, orthopedic bed, the pacing stopped immediately.

Is My Dog an Emotional Genius?

I know that might surprise you, but your dog is an expert at reading you. It’s a deep, evolved connection backed by science. When dogs and their owners make eye contact, both of their brains release oxytocin, the "love hormone" that bonds mothers and babies. I find this absolutely fascinating because it validates the soulful connection I’ve witnessed for nearly three decades. They can even follow human gestures like pointing with incredible accuracy. You can read more about how dogs understand us on a scientific level.

What I'm seeing with more and more animals lately is a deep desire to be understood beyond just their basic needs. They want us to know when they're happy or when they feel anxious. Your dog is already equipped for a rich emotional dialogue. Your job is simply to tune your radio to the right frequency. This is a skill of presence and quiet observation. You don't need any special psychic ability, though I do offer deeper insights in my professional readings. Start today by just watching. Notice the flick of an ear or the softness in their eyes. This is where the conversation truly begins.

Trust me, the deepest conversations I’ve facilitated happen when the human finally stops talking and starts truly observing. Your dog is an open book, you just need to learn how to read the pages.

How Can I Decode My Dog’s Body Language and Sounds?

Over my 27 years of working with animals, I’ve found that a dog's body is a living roadmap to their inner world. Let's break down how you can start decoding what your dog is telling you. The first step in really communicating is becoming a student of their physical language. For instance, a wagging tail doesn't always mean a happy dog; depending on its height and speed, it can also show nervousness or even serve as a warning.

Are You Missing These Subtle Cues?

Just last week, a client came to me worried about her new rescue, a beagle mix named Sadie. "She's constantly yawning, Margaret," the owner explained. "Is she just always tired?" When I connected with Sadie, what I felt wasn't sleepiness, it was a wave of social anxiety. The yawning was what’s known as a calming signal. In everyday terms, Sadie was saying, "This is a little much for me right now." Once her owner understood this, she created calmer environments, and the excessive yawning stopped. This is the part I love most, when one small shift in understanding changes everything.

As you can see, effective communication always starts with our willingness to listen.

What Is My Dog Saying Out Loud?

A dog's vocalizations are just as nuanced. Here's what I've noticed with animals: every bark, whine, and growl carries a distinct meaning based on its pitch and frequency.

• A high-pitched, rapid bark is often pure excitement.
• A low, steady growl is an unmistakable warning that says, "Back off."
• A series of short, sharp barks can be an alert, like "Someone's at the door!"
• A soft whine or whimper usually signals a need for attention or a potty break.

For a deeper dive, you can explore the foundations of the dog body language system. This is where it gets really meaningful, because once you start to truly hear them, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime.

A piece of advice I always give is to never punish a growl. I know that might sound surprising, but a growl is crucial communication. Punishing it doesn't get rid of the dog's discomfort, it just removes the warning sign that comes before a potential bite.

What Should You Actually Do to Communicate Back?

Once you start learning to listen, the next step is figuring out how to respond. In my 27 years of experience, I’ve seen time and again that it’s always a two-way street. It’s not just about decoding their signals, it's about sending clear, calm, and consistent messages back. How you show up, both physically and emotionally, directly impacts how your dog receives your message.

How Important Is My Energy?

I often find myself guiding pet parents to use slower movements and a softer voice. Dogs are incredibly sensitive to our energy. If you're feeling rushed or stressed, your dog will pick up on that tension immediately. A few years ago, I worked with a client whose sheltie, Finn, was terrified of thunderstorms. His owner would try to soothe him with rapid petting and a worried voice, saying, "It's okay!" To Finn, her frantic energy only confirmed his fear. What that really means is she was telling him, "She's scared too! This is a real threat!"

Your calm is contagious.

During our session, I asked her to try something different. The next time a storm rolled in, she sat quietly on the floor, took slow breaths, and hummed softly. By projecting calm certainty, she changed the entire dynamic. Your quiet confidence speaks volumes.

How Can I Use My Voice and Body Effectively?

Have you ever noticed how your voice naturally softens when you talk to your dog? I find this fascinating because it’s an instinct science is now validating. In fact, research shows that people instinctively adjust their speech rate to a midpoint between our pace and a dog’s slower vocalizations, making it easier for them to understand us. Beyond your voice, your body is a powerful communication tool. I've seen amazing results with clients who pair a consistent hand signal with a verbal cue. A direct stare can feel confrontational, and bending over a small dog can feel intimidating. Here's another way to look at it: approaching with a soft gaze from the side is much more inviting.

What I'd Tell a Friend About Human Cues

To help illustrate this, here’s a quick comparison of human signals I’ve found to be effective versus those that often create confusion or stress.

What Your Dog Sees and Hears	Effective Communication I Recommend	Ineffective Communication to Avoid
Greeting	Kneeling down, turning slightly to the side, and speaking in a soft, calm tone. This appears non-threatening.	Standing tall, leaning directly over the dog, and making direct, prolonged eye contact. This can be interpreted as a threat.
Giving a Cue	Using a clear, simple hand signal (like an open palm for 'stay') paired with a single, calm verbal word.	Repeating a command over and over in a louder tone. This creates anxiety and teaches the dog to ignore the first cue.
Correction	Making a quick, sharp sound (like "Ah-ah!") to interrupt unwanted behavior, then immediately redirecting.	Yelling or long verbal scolding. Your dog feels your anger but doesn't understand the complex reason behind it.
Showing Affection	Offering slow, gentle strokes along the side of their body or a soft scratch under the chin.	Forceful hugging or patting them on the top of the head. These gestures can feel confining and uncomfortable for many dogs.

For those looking to go even deeper, you may be interested in my guide on the fundamentals of how to talk to animals on an intuitive level. Just remember, clarity and consistency are the cornerstones of building trust.

Are Modern Tools Genuinely Helping Us Talk to Dogs?

Beyond the intuitive methods I’ve used for nearly 30 years, technology is now opening some incredible new doors. More recently in my practice, clients are telling me about tools like soundboards with buttons for words like "outside," "play," or "love you." When I first heard about these, I was thrilled. This is the kind of validation for what I’ve known all along from my psychic work: dogs have complex thoughts and a deep desire to express them. For a long time, the question was whether dogs were just mashing buttons at random. But what I'm seeing is something much deeper. Put simply, they are using these tools with clear intention.

What Is This New Technology Revealing About Our Dogs?

This isn't just a party trick. It's a genuine breakthrough in our understanding of the canine mind. A groundbreaking global study from UC San Diego's Comparative Cognition Lab has been digging into this. The data they collected shows the dogs are intentionally communicating complex ideas. For instance, one celebrated pup in the study, a dog named Stella, combined her buttons to say 'help,' 'water,' and 'outside' when her 'beach' button was missing. She was creating a new phrase! You can dive into the full story behind this incredible animal communication research to learn more.

Can Buttons Reveal a Deeper Layer of Conversation?

Let me share a story from a recent session. A client came to me about her Corgi, Winston, who had an impressive button board. One week, he started repeatedly pressing 'sad,' and his owner was baffled. During our reading, I connected with Winston and felt a heavy sense of loss. He showed me a mental image of a Beagle he used to see on their walk, a neighbor who had just moved away. This is actually a beautiful sign because it shows their deep emotional capacity. The buttons didn't create the feeling; they just gave him a way to finally tell his mom what was wrong.

By the way, these tools are not a replacement for learning your dog's natural body language. Think of them as an enhancement. In my experience, they work best for pet parents who are already attentive. They require patience, and they work with your intuition. You're not just giving them a new way to talk, you're also becoming an even better listener in the process.

What I'd Tell a Friend About Real Connection

If we were sitting down together, just talking about our dogs, here’s what I’d share from my 27 years of experience. This is the real secret to understanding your dog, and it has almost nothing to do with obedience training.

It all comes down to presence. The most profound conversations I've witnessed happen when the human simply puts down their phone, gets on the floor, and just is with them. Those quiet, intentional moments are where the real magic happens.

How Do I Weave Connection into My Everyday Life?

You don't need to carve out huge chunks of time for this. You can transform the most mundane parts of your day into powerful moments of connection. Often, the most meaningful communication happens without a single word. My own dog, a wise old soul named Jasper, is my greatest teacher in this. Our most important "chats" happen while I'm waiting for my coffee to brew. I’ll just sit on the kitchen floor. He always wanders over, rests his head on my knee, and we just breathe together.

In that simple act, I’m telling him, "I see you. You matter more than anything else right now." And in his own way, he’s saying the same thing right back.

Look for those little pockets of time in your own day.

• The Welcome Home: Before you put your bags down, take 30 seconds for a proper greeting. Get on their level and truly receive their "You're home!" celebration.
• The "Sniffari" Walk: Let them take the lead for a few minutes. Let them get lost in the world of smells. This shows you respect their dog-ness.
• Quiet Observation: Just spend five minutes watching your dog sleep. Notice the twitch of their paws. This simple practice helps you tune into their state of being.

What Does This Quiet Connection Actually Feel Like?

This is where things get deeply interesting, moving beyond just watching them to sharing a feeling with them. A client once asked me, "But how will I know if it's working?" I told her about my own experience. When I’m feeling stressed, Jasper will often leave his cozy bed, walk across the room, and press his entire body against my legs. He’s simply offering his steady, calm presence to counter my frantic energy. It's pure, non-verbal communication. That's the stuff that builds an unbreakable bond. You’ll start to feel it, too. This silent dialogue is the bedrock of a truly deep relationship with your dog.

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